My dad

I’ve been taking care of my elderly dad—at his home in Syracuse, NY and then here at my house in Pennsylvania. He did a gradual decline in that time and finally departed this old world around lunchtime on Thursday, June 2. My sister Marian was by his side when he closed his eyes. Now he’s reunited with our mom.

I’ll post links to the official obituary later. Pop was a beloved husband & father; scholar; historian; exhaustive researcher; graphic designer; exemplary draftsman and (as you see in this post and this one) a good explainer of things. He loved military history especially and dragging his family around to explore old forts in the northeastern United States. Pop’s research library was massive and rigorously organized. He wrote a book about the Battle of Long Island. He researched and illustrated countless scenes of troops in their correct uniforms for the Company of Military Historians (of which he was a Fellow). He liked old radio shows; cowboys; smoking cigars; railroads; Bob & Ray; military music; bagpipes; and British music hall music. He was a Boy Scout and in the Korean War, Sergeant Manders served in the U.S. Army as a surveyor (a risky job often performed behind enemy lines—he was locating machine gun nests). Pop taught me a moral code and instilled in me mental discipline. His influence on me is profound.

Thanks for everything, Pop. Love you.
Eric Irvine Manders
August 7, 1930 – June 2, 2022

18 responses to “My dad

  1. Jim Fergerson

    So sorry for the loss of your father. May his memory be a blessing.


  2. So sorry for your loss John! All the precious memories of your Dad will forever be another way to love! My deepest sympathy to You and Family!


  3. So sorry John. This was very nicely written.


  4. Oh John. I am so sorry. I have lost both my parents and last week lost my husband. Hold your memories close. Lean on friends and family, but first and foremost lean on Christ. He will be there In your sorrow and loneliness and that emptiness. My prayers are with you as you make arrangements. Take time to remember the good times. God Bless. Sue Wren


  5. John,..I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. I know how hard it is to lose a father…I still miss mine terribly after losing him 8 years ago. Your dad sounds like a great guy from his short bio! My sincere condolences to you and your family.


  6. Oh John, I am so very sorry to hear of your loss…losing a parent is heartbreaking. This was a beautifully written tribute, and your time caregiving is also a tribute and profound act of love. From your writing, you have taken on many of your Dad’s admirable qualities! I am wishing you peace and comfort in this difficult time…you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers. Peace and love to you and your family.


  7. John, sorry to hear about your dad. He had a good, long ride. I have fond memories of him from scouting. My condolences to you and Marian. May he Rest In Peace.


  8. My sincerest sympathy for your deep loss, John. Words fall short at times like this but the love of those who care for you and your family will hold you up. Sending love up from Pittsburgh! ❤


  9. John, may your grief be short knowing of your Dad’s heavenly assignment. You certainly did as much as you could keeping him comfortable down the stretch in his life. The sacrifice is joyous and worthwhile for sure and I applaud your diligent caring.


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